In today’s hookup culture, being a gentleman is an art. Here are three things you should do to ride that fine line between being a bad boy and a nice guy.
1. Keep your hygiene in check.
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You don’t need to look like you’re straight from the cover of GQ—perfectly coiffed and sporting a crisp new suit and tie. Being well-dressed and masculine doesn’t necessarily define a gentleman. However, you should be groomed and able to dress appropriately for any occasion. After all, being a gentleman is all in the way you carry yourself.
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The same goes for your bedroom. Keep your place tidy and sheets fresh. Most importantly, practice good hygiene in all areas of your body. A healthy body is a sexy body.
2. Practice the right amount of control.
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It’s not always about you. Make it about her, too. While it’s natural to want sex, take the time to connect with her. In fact, you should be that way with everyone regardless of gender. Hold doors open. Say hello to the person next to you. Be a good listener. You can be forward with what you want from her but don’t push for it. Practice self-control.
Between the sheets
Again, it’s not always about you. Let her take the reigns and listen to the ways she wants you to pleasure her. Once you’re in the groove, it’s all right to let go of that self-control a little.
3. Accept a woman for who she is.
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Let’s be honest, women want sex, too. She’s probably had as many partners as you, and that’s okay. It’s the 21st century, so accept and respect her sexuality without any judgment or assumptions, just as you expect her to accept yours. Some like to hold out while some want to hook up with no strings attached. Instead of thinking of sex as something you can win, think of it as something you can share.
Between the sheets
Carry that same mentality in the sack. Embrace her body and be open to the things she may or may not be into, just as you would want from her. More importantly, communicating and compromising is the key to a more adventurous sex life. Have the condome and Astroglide at the ready.
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