Is it intense? Yes. It it worth it? Also yes.
Want to feel like a badass warrior goddess? Then you need to try the Amazon sex position. This position, so named because it’s a woman-on-top, dominant position (think: the warrior women of Themyscira in Wonder Woman), is a hybrid position where the person on the bottom is in missionary, but the person on top is in cowgirl. Let me explain.
The person on the bottom lies on their back with their knees bent up toward their chest. The person on top straddles their partner and squats, slowly lowering themselves onto their partner’s penis or strap-on.
“For the adventurous couple looking to really explore new things, the Amazon provides easier internal hot spot access and intense orgasms for both. And if deep penetration is on the sexploration menu for you, the Amazon position is it,” says E Michelle Thomas, ACS certified sexologist.
The Amazon has other bonuses, like…
It forces you to focus
The Amazon can be a tricky, athletic position, but that’s what makes it so hot. “Nontraditional sexual positions take a bit of focus, so it’s a good way for women to get out of their heads, be playful, and tune into whether it feels good,” says ob-gyn and certified sex coach Renée Hilliard, MD.
There’s sexy power play involved
If you’re usually the receiving partner on the bottom, the Amazon position gives you the opportunity to explore what it feels like to be dominant, in control, and on top. It also gives the usually-dominant partner the chance to chill and explore their submissive side. “Some people love the psychological factor of giving away all control,” says Katherin Winnick, sex coach and BDSM expert at Let’s Talk Sex. Plus, watching you be on top and in control can be hot as hell for them too.
It’s adaptable
Want to tie someone up, use a strap-on, or try anal? Go right ahead—the Amazon is nothing if not versatile. “You can try it with a penis or a strap-on, and you can use your vagina or your butt, which means that you can try it while pegging. In fact, because it often involves some bending of the phallus away from the body, a strap-on may be a better option than a penis,” says Jess O’Reilly, PhD, resident sexologist at Astroglide.
But like with all new positions, proceed with caution
“To prevent injury, it’s really important to go slowly, especially initially,” says Antonia Hall, sex and relationship expert and author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life. “Really take your time and be sure you are steady and confident in your balance before thrusting because if you fall over or move too quickly, you could literally break their penis.” Ouch. This is especially true if you’ve never been on top before or if you’re new to dominating in bed. Just be careful, pls 🙃.
If you find yourself getting exhausted (or just frustrated at not getting it right), you can switch to regular cowgirl by having your partner unbend their knees and putting their legs out straight. And if you’re tired of being on top in general, switch to missionary or spooning and let your partner do the work for a bit! “Don’t worry about doing it all—just do what feels good for you,” says O’Reilly.
Remember: This position requires a little more flexibility and stamina, as well as patience, since it might take a few tries! Be calm and laugh off any blooper-reel-worthy moments—whoever said sex needs to be serious and perfect at all times has never had great sex.
If you’re game and you have the thigh strength, here’s how to do the classic Amazon position, plus some variations.
THE POSITIONS
The Classic Amazon
The Amazon is an athletic position, so it may be easier if you stretch a little beforehand. Your partner lies on their back with their knees bent and legs slightly spread. You straddle them and squat over them, hovering until you can slowly maneuver your vagina onto their penis or strap-on. Now what? Move slowly. If you partner wants to rub your clitoris as you go, all the better.
Pro tip: If their legs just keep getting in the way, you can go for a reverse Amazon move by turning around like you would in reverse-cowgirl. (Emphasis on the “pro” here because this can also be more difficult!)
The Wonder Woman
Be a true queen and use your throne to sit on your partner’s face. “Hold onto the wall or bed frame for support and grind your hips to your liking,” says Liv Arnold, an erotic rom-com writer. “Or your partner can hold their tongue in position while you find your pleasure spots.” If you’re super into the fantasy, spring for a Wonder Woman costume (there’s also a more generic “Warrior Goddess” version).
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The Kinked-Up Amazon
As with any and all BDSM-adjacent positions (or any type of sex, for that matter), set boundaries beforehand, establish a safe word, and communicate! Once you’ve done that, cuff your partner’s wrists together before you ride them. Tease them by rubbing your lubed hands up their thighs, touching their sensitive spots but not ~quite~ enough to make them cum, and make them beg for more of you.
The Super-Charged Amazon
Adjust the position to your liking with new angles and all the toys you require. “The lower partner can prop their head and upper back up for support and to change the angle (and likely ease penetration),” says O’Reilly. Use your hands for extra stimulation or add a vibrating toy, she says. A couples’ vibrator that stimulates your clit and the inside your vagina at the same time can make it ~amazing~.
The Kneeling Amazon
If squatting isn’t your thing (understandable—it’s squatting), then do the same thing but on your knees. It takes a little pressure off your legs but mainly, no squatting. Feel free to access your clit via hand or toy.
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The Reverse Amazon
Same deal, but this time you’re turned around so you’re facing your partner’s feet. You can rest some of your weight on their thighs, and if they’re into your ass, well, there it is. They can look or touch, depending where y’all are with butt stuff.
The Amazon Queen
Be extra Amazonian and do it with your own damn self. Stick a vibrator or dildo between two pillows, squat over it and start humping that thing for hands-free love. Try it with a rabbit vibrator and you won’t even care that you’re squatting because it will just be that good.
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The Double Amazon
Are you both queens who need to be serviced? Assume the position(s) but use a double headed dildo, flexible vibrator, or wearable vibrating strap-on between you. (And if you’re not doing anything else, invent a longish, flexible, double-headed rabbit vibrator because the world needs you now!)