If you and your partner are planning on hooking up with another couple or are looking at a more general four-person group sex situation, you’re going to need some really great foursome sex positions that are a) super hot for everyone involved, b) actually doable, and c) don’t leave anyone sitting alone on the sidelines. (Unless they’re a voyeur, then that’s perfect.)
But before anyone starts getting naked, here are some ways to make it a great experience for everyone.
If you and your partner are planning on hooking up with another couple or are looking at a more general four-person group sex situation, you’re going to need some really great foursome sex positions that are a) super hot for everyone involved, b) actually doable, and c) don’t leave anyone sitting alone on the sidelines. (Unless they’re a voyeur, then that’s perfect.)
But before anyone starts getting naked, here are some ways to make it a great experience for everyone.
Talk about how it’s all going to go down
“Folks who are already partners should talk and agree on your boundaries, means of communication while you're in the thick of it (What if you need to stop? How will you communicate about that?), and desires,” says Carol Queen, PhD, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations and curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum. “Then, do a version of this with all four of you before getting to it! Make sure safer sex strategies, health questions, and dearly-wished-for fantasies are on the table beforehand and that you can, you know, talk to these people you're about to f*ck!” She also recommends taking a look at the book Playing Well With Others by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams.
Communicate during the sex
“Check in with one another regularly. A simple ‘Does this feel good?’ can be a good start,” says Jess O’Reilly, PhD, resident sexologist at Astroglide. “Some other options for what to say: ‘Do you want more of this?’ ‘You good?’ ‘Show me how.’”
Practice safe sex
Have a bunch of safe sex supplies on hand (condoms, dental dams, finger condoms) for body parts and toys. “Make sure you change out your barriers every time you get involved with a different person. Do not use a barrier more than once a person,” says Marla Renee Stewart, MA, sexpert for Lovers.
Check in with yourself
“In the end, what’s important is to enjoy the experience. If you’re not enjoying it at all, don’t keep going just to please your partner or the rest of the group. This is a situation in which you have to absolutely be selfish and decide for yourself,” says Nina Nguyen, a sex and LGBTQ+ expert, speaker, and cofounder of Fraulila.de, a German LGBTQ+ sex and relationships platform.
Got all that? Okay, now you can get naked. Here are some foursome sex positions to try out.
Make one (lucky) person the center of attention. They get penetrated with a penis or dildo, while giving oral sex to a third person, and stimulating the fourth with hands or a sex toy, says Nguyen.
