How to Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work

Posted By Belinda Anderson  
07/12/2020

Making a long-distance relationship succeed is full of consistent hurdles, but so are all other romantic relationships. You shouldn't let the distance create a rift between you and your partner.

 

You can always maintain your relationship’s love and warmth by going the extra mile to make the relationship work despite being apart. In short, you'd need to continually search for means to make your partner feel cherished and loved. Fortunately, there are loads of doable ways to make your other half feel secure and happy in your relationship.

Try Phone Sex

Just because you are far from each other does not mean you can't engage in sexual relations. Phone sex is an excellent method to keep up a passionate connection and maintain the sexual dynamic rippling between you. Keep in mind that sex is one of the most effective ways to meet our psychological necessities. Although you are unable to engage in in-person sex — there are other ways that you can do it together.

 

Having phone sex is the best chance to explore a couple of the sexual fantasies you'd love to happen in real life. Think about this as some kind of dress rehearsal. Set the mood, say what you feel out loud, and focus on pleasuring yourself and one another. You can even use adult sex toys to get more pleasure out of the experience.

Actively Listen to What They Say

It’s crucial to figure out how to listen and comprehend what your other half is saying truly in every relationship. Try to actively listen even though you also have a lot on your plate at the moment. There is nothing more that can effectively make a person feel undervalued or insignificant than being unheard.

 

If you genuinely listen and empathize with your lover, it helps them feel happier, more loved, and important. Furthermore, when they feel supported and heard, they will be significantly more willing and capable of communicating with you.

Make the Situation Temporary

Being in a long-distance relationship is doable for a limited time. However, you will ultimately want to live close to each other in the long-haul. Staying in a relationship where you don't regularly see each other in person is a challenge.

 

Thus, both of you must be similarly dedicated to the relationship and share the same wavelength about how long your situation will last. You should establish your plans regarding how to close the physical distance between you two beforehand. Planning when you will finally stay in the same place helps both of you solidify your future plans.

Try to Communicate Regularly

Text or call each other regularly. Sending a "good morning" and "good night" text is an unquestionable requirement. Besides regular texts, try to keep your partner up-to-date on your life and its occurrences, regardless of how insignificant most of them may appear.

 

If you want to go the extra mile, send each other short videos, pictures, and audio clips every once in a while. By putting in a bit of effort, you can prevent the other person from feeling left out from your life and vice versa.

Frequently Reassure Your Partner

Jealousy, doubt, and insecurity can never be absent in long-distance relationships because you spend almost all of your time apart. Try to use verbal assurances with each other frequently. They help reduce the appearance of these negative emotions and solidify where you stand in your relationship.

 

Whenever you talk, tell your lover how much you cherish and value your relationship. Furthermore, if you're feeling unsure about where you stand, do not hesitate to ask your partner for reassurance.

Prioritise Your Schedules Well

Different time zones, sleep preferences, school or work schedules, etc., can become the primary reason for even the most dedicated relationships to fall apart. Typically, a couple can sink into a natural pattern in their relationship, even though that particular pattern does not equally cater to both sides.

 

There's no end to the kinds of communication arrangements that are ideal for your relationship. All is good as long as it caters to both your lifestyles. Be careful about how you pick a deal that works for you. Choosing an unfair arrangement can easily lead to frustration and resentment, especially if you fall into a pattern that does not feel supportive nor convenient.

Plan Creative Dates

Physical distance is unmistakably a hurdle when arranging dates. However, that does not mean that your dates can't be fun and exciting. It all comes down to coming up with innovative ways to help both of you stay connected and engaged.

 

Perhaps both of you can play UNO online as you talk with one another through video calls. You can also ask your partner for help in buying a couple of new appliances or décor as you chat and shop online. There are numerous creative approaches to make common actual dates and transform them to be feasible by video or chat.

Respecting the Reason for Being Apart

There are millions of reasons that people are in a long-distance relationship. Furthermore, the vast majority of them are not intentional. Regardless of whether it's due to family, work, money, school, etc., it's vital that you respect your partner's reason for living apart. A great deal of the time, we do not have much choice concerning where we live.

 

Thus, making your other half feel blameworthy about living apart is certainly not a generous act. Respect that you have to be separated for now, and opt to take advantage of the situation by embracing innovative approaches to communicate and strengthen your relationship.

Prioritise Maintenance Over Repair

Do not wait for small slights to develop into full-scale problems before you decide to face them. We typically tend to leave things as they are in our relationships until they become unbearable.

 

Always remember that nipping issues in the bud as they occur along the way is better than letting them transform into something painfully grotesque. When a crack appears in your relationship, address it as fast as possible to avoid completely ruining everything due to a hurt that occurred six months prior.

Takeaway

Being in a long-distance relationship is never easy. However, the physical distance doesn't necessarily need to be the one to destroy your relationship either. Through mutual communication and commitment, you can successfully solidify your relationship regardless of the miles. You only need to remember that simple adjustments to your lifestyle and attitude can go a long way in making your loved one stay happy and secure in your relationship.

 

 

Author’s bio:

Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. She was raised in a strict, Christian home, but has since found more peace with a more spiritual approach to life and health. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife… with a wild side. In her free time, she loves to spend time at the beach with her family, host parties and BBQ’s, and work outside in one of her many flower gardens.