Bringing a vibrator into the bedroom (or any other room, really) with your partner can add a whole new level of fun to your sex life. Whether you're a vibrator pro or this is your first time sharing the experience, using a toy together can bring you closer and make things even more exciting.
Not sure how to start? Here’s a handy guide to using a vibrator with your partner and making the most of your shared pleasure.
1. The Sexy Talk Before the Sexy Time
Before you whip out your favourite vibrator, take a moment to talk it out with your partner. Don’t worry, this doesn’t have to be a big “sit down, we need to talk” moment. Keep it light and sexy—think of it as foreplay for the mind. Try something like, “I’ve been thinking… how would you feel about adding a little buzz to the bedroom?” You’d be surprised how a casual convo about a vibrator can spark a whole new level of anticipation.
2. Show and Tell (Emphasis on the Show)
Once your partner’s on board, it’s time for a little show-and-tell. If they’ve never seen your vibrator in action, why not give them a front-row seat? Show them how it works, let them feel the different settings, and give them a rundown of your favourite spots. You could even treat them to a live demo—yep, we’re talking about a one-person performance where they get to watch how you like to use it on yourself. And when they’re ready to take control? Lie back, relax, and let them give it a go.
3. Double Down with Penetration
Here’s the thing: penetrative sex is great, but for most people with vaginas, it’s not always enough to cross the finish line. That’s where your vibrator comes in. Clitoral stimulation is a must for around 80% of women to reach orgasm, and adding a vibrator into the mix during penetration? Well, that’s a guaranteed win. So, while your partner is inside you, hold the vibrator against your clit and enjoy the double sensation. It’s like turning sex up to 11.
4. Vibrators: Not Just for Vaginas
Let’s clear something up—vibrators are not just for the ladies (and we cannot emphasise this enough). These little buzzing wonders are an equal-opportunity pleasure-giver. Whether your partner has a penis or not, vibrators can be used on all kinds of erogenous zones. Try it on nipples, inner thighs, the perineum, and even the balls—anywhere that enjoys a little extra sensation. You might just discover some new hot spots you didn’t know existed.
5. Enhance Your Oral Game
Want to give your oral sex skills a cheeky upgrade? Here’s a trick: hold the vibrator against your cheek while going down on your partner. The vibrations will travel through your mouth and create a whole new world of sensations for them. Or, if you want to keep things a little more hands-on, hold the vibrator against their body while you work your magic with your mouth. Either way, you’ll be delivering pleasure on multiple levels. That’s a win for everyone.
6. Lube Is Your Best Friend
We can’t stress this enough—lube is your BFF when it comes to adding a vibrator into the mix. Not only does it make everything feel slicker and smoother, but it also heightens the sensations. Just remember to use a good water-based lube if your vibrator is made of silicone (they play well together, promise). And if you’re using condoms or other barrier protection, don’t forget to extend that safety to your toys as well. You want the fun to keep going without any hiccups!
7. Sensory Play: Vibrate More Than Just Genitals
Sure, vibrators feel amazing on your bits, but why stop there? Let’s get creative—run your vibrator over your partner’s body, from their neck to their feet, and everywhere in between. Vibrations along the spine, around the nipples, or even on the soles of the feet can trigger all sorts of unexpected reactions. Want to take it up a notch? Add in a blindfold, or play with hot and cold sensations to keep your partner guessing (and gasping).
8. Keep It Clean (Literally)
Alright, time for a little practical advice. After all the fun, it’s super important to keep things clean. Your vibrator has worked hard—so give it a good wash with warm soapy water, especially if you’ve been sharing it between partners or switching between different types of play. A clean toy is a happy toy, after all, and you’ll want it ready to go for your next adventure.
9. Explore, Experiment, Enjoy!
There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to using a vibrator with your partner. The most important thing is to explore and enjoy the experience together. Try different positions, experiment with sensations, and most importantly, listen to each other’s bodies. There’s something undeniably sexy about figuring it out as a team and finding new ways to turn each other on.
So, plug in that vibrator, lube up, and get ready for some serious buzzworthy fun with your partner. Who said you can’t have your cake and eat it too?