Are You Flexible Enough to Try These Exotic Sex Positions?
We’ve been having fun missionary style for years — perhaps even decades or many decades. Sometimes we shake things up with a touch of doggy-style, maybe messing around in the shower, but there’s always those days we want to take a break from our go-to positions and try something a little out there. We want to go wild, maybe even a little risqué.
If you are looking to get a bit more acrobatic or a touch more wild, you can start on spins on familiar favourites (love the cowgirl, try the reverse cowgirl!), but that’s not the end of it – there’s also the out-of-control cowgirl, and that one may blow your mind. Some of these positions require you be pretty flexible though; so don’t skip that yoga class this week! They may be for you, they may not be — but finding out will be the fun part!
We like to consider ourselves to be pretty adventurous, but here are a few contortionist positions we can’t wait to try – that we didn’t even know existed!
Flexibility-Challenging Sex Positions
1. Viennese Oyster
The name pretty much speaks for itself. “The Viennese Oyster requires she place both of her ankles behind her head, fully exposing her vulva and folding her body into the shape of an oyster,” says sexpert Tyomi Morgan, who hosts a weekly video tutorial on educating people about positions. He holds her ankles in place, says Morgan, while she uses her free hands to prevent his body weight from crushing her contorted body. This is great for extra deep penetration.
2. Out of Control Cowgirl
You may have tried the Cowgirl, or the Reverse Cowgirl, but have you tried the Out Of Control Cowgirl? Astroglide's Resident Sexologist Dr. Jess says in this one the man kneels and sits back on his heels, while the woman sits atop him, facing away, to maintain total control, since he can’t thrust with as much power while on his knees.
3. Zen Sex
“In this position, he lies on his back with his legs out. She gets on top of him, either facing him or facing away,” says Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a marriage, family and sex therapist, and resident sex expert at AdamAndEve. She puts her legs into full lotus (crossed). She can either lean forward on her hands to move her hips up and down, or he can lift her hips up and down from behind.
4. Pile Driver
“Yet another sex position that requires the contortion of the female partner in a position that is all about domination,” says Morgan. This position is best on a solid surface (maybe a floor padded with a down comforter or a few pillows). To get into the pile driver position, she rolls onto her shoulders with her legs placed together as her toes touch the surface behind her head. He then straddles his inverted partner for penetration. “Looks like a WWE wrestling move if you ask me!” says Morgan.
5. Spread Eagle
The term “spread eagle” has been connected with sex forever, but it’s actually also a position, says Dr. Jess. “She lies on her back with her legs spread wide above her head and her wrists tied to her ankles. He takes total control from between her legs,” says Astroglide's Dr. Jess.
6. Wheelbarrow
You are both on your knees in this position, offered by Dr. Kat. “She faces away from you and grabs her ankles with her hands. You keep her steady with your hands under her hips and enter from behind!” she explains.
7. Snake Charmer
“Ever had sex while in a headstand? I didn't think so. This fellatio sex position is for the daring couple that wants to take oral sex to another level,” says Morgan. Snake charmer requires him to be positioned in a headstand while she gives him a blowjob. Both of you will need to rely on each other’s upper body strength, so this may be a fun one for fitness lovers to try. It has big payoff: The rush of blood to your head during the headstand heightens the experience of the blowjob. “To get into position, he places his hands on the floor to position himself into a headstand (this position can be used in the middle of the floor with a pillow placed underneath his head for comfort, or against a wall). Once he is in position, she positions herself on her knees to bring her face eye level to her partner’s pelvis to begin her charming performance!” says Morgan.
8. Monkey Bars
This is one you never imagined on the playground. Inspired by the monkey bars of yesteryear, Astroglide's Dr. Jess suggests this wild position, where one partner hangs upside down from a chin-up bar while the other performs oral. Switch things up by taking turns being the one hanging down!
9. YMCA
“Cunnilingus barely gets the spotlight it deserves, but in this position the only thing on his mind will be ensuring her satisfaction comes first,” says Morgan. Serving as the female version of "Snake Charmer," this position is called YMCA and requires she be positioned in a headstand with her legs spread eagle, transforming her into a human letter "Y"! (Get it?) “To get into this position, he first sits on the floor with his legs parted — a cushion should be placed between his legs for his partner's head to rest comfortably on. Once he is set, he will help her get into position by having her stand in between his legs, kneel, position the center of her head on the pillow between his legs and lift her legs off of the ground and into the "Y" shape, using her core strength for balance,” Morgan explains.