Did you know the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings? With a number like that you’d expect it to be the easiest body part to work with.
And yet, if you’re reading this, you probably know that many people notoriously have trouble with.
It’s often been stereotyped that this is a problem only for men, and while that isn’t completely incorrect (44 percent of men in one study couldn’t find it), it’s definitely not exclusive. Another study found 29 percent of women couldn’t find the clitoris on an anatomy diagram, either.
There’s a reason the clit is a tricky body part. Dr. Ditza Katz says “The clitoris is not accessible for direct stimulation in all sexual positions, which lends to frequent discussions during sexual counseling.”
Moral of the story: Don’t feel bad if this is an issue you face! That ends here and now!
Straight from the sexperts, here are the top 10 best positions for clitoral stimulation.
1. The Mare’s Position
Why it’s good: She jumps on top of him for the ride of her life, literally milking each moment of this erotic rollercoaster.
How it’s done: Strictly speaking, this is more a technique than a position because it involves her using her pelvis floor muscles to pump his penis to orgasm. It’s called the ‘mare’ in the Kama Sutra because it refers to feminine energy and maternal instinct- a girl power grip!
It also happens to be one of the best positions for adding extra clitoral stimulation because both his and her hands are free to use fingers or a vibe on the clitoris during penetration.
He sits on the edge of the bed, legs over the side. She’s facing away from him, sitting on his lap, kneeling (with her legs bent and the bottom part of her legs flat on the bed). Rather than thrust in a traditional way, she clenches her pelvic floor muscles, which also (rather handily) helps to bring her to orgasm as well. (Bestselling writer and sex expert Tracey Cox)
2. The Eagle Position
Why it’s good: For a penetrative sex position, this one has lots of clitoral action because the penetrating partner’s whole body is pressed right up there! It’s also very intimate because it is face to face and involves full-body contact.
How it’s done: Eagle Position is a sexual position used for anal sex. It gets its name because the submissive partner lays on their back with their legs spread wide, like the wings of an eagle. Eagle Position is a good choice for people who enjoy anal sex because it allows deep penetration and clitoral and P-spot stimulation. It is also considered a medium-level sex act and a variation on the traditional missionary position. (Tara Struyk, Co-Founder of Kinkly)
3. The Champagne Room
Why it’s good: People often forget that a position itself doesn’t necessarily have to stimulate the clitoris – toys can be added for this in many positions. This one’s a rear-entry option that gives the receiving partner plenty of room to do their thing with a toy upfront.
How it’s done: The champagne room position is a seated, rear-entry sex position. To get into this position, the partner doing the penetrating sits down on the edge of a chair, couch, or bed, and the receiving partner gently backs up into them. The champagne room position can be used for anal or vaginal sex.
The champagne position leaves both partners hands-free making it an easy position to add sex toys in to. In this image, the receiving partner is getting ready to use the Satisfyer Pro 2 on themselves. Adding sex toys to this position allows for dual stimulation of the G-spot and clitoris. (Tara Struyk, Co-Founder of Kinkly)
4. The Shoulder Stand
Why it’s good: This is one of the sexiest oral sex positions out there. It’s on the ambitious side, physically speaking, but you’re feeling energetic and frisky, it might be worth a try. The head rush from the inverted position makes it extra exciting!
How it’s done: In this position, the receiving partner props herself up into a shoulder stand, using her partner’s body as leverage. Her partner can then lean in and provide delicious oral pleasure while getting a very sexy eyeful. (Tara Struyk, Co-Founder of Kinkly)
5. The Sideways Saddle
Why it’s good: This is a variation of the reverse cowgirl position with the woman rubbing her clitoris against their partner’s thigh – umm, hello orgasm!
How it’s done: Have the partner who will be penetrating with a penis or strap-on lie on their back. They will bend one knee (either left or right) until the sole of their foot touches the bed. Climb on top with your back towards his face, like in a reverse cowgirl position. When comfortable slide on them facing towards the bent leg. As you move back and forth your clitoris will rub against their thigh. Some men may place a pillow under their lower back for additional comfort. Additional water-based lubricant on her clitoris will make the sliding even more comfortable and pleasurable. (Sexologist Deon Black)
6. Doggy Style with a Twist
Why it’s good: This remix of a classic keeps the best of doggy style and adds an extra dose of stimulation for the clit.
How it’s done: With the receiving partner on their hands and knees (or chest down and bottom in the air), the giving partner can enter from behind and easily reach around and stimulate the clitoris with fingers, a fingertip vibrator, clitoral stimulator, or bullet vibrator. (Edwina Cato of BedBible)
7. Spectacular Spooning
Why it’s good: Spooning is incredibly cozy and intimate, enabling the “big spoon” to nuzzle the “little spoon’s” neck, showering it will warm kisses while enjoying nearly full-body, skin-to-skin contact.
How it’s done: The big spoon can slowly and sensually enter the little spoon, pulling them closer and stimulating the clitoris manually or by using a small vibrator. (Edwina Cato of BedBible)
8. The Table
Why it’s good: This move is perfect for couples who want to benefit from both clitoral play and deep penetration. Make sure that you have enough room to stimulate your partner’s clit with your hand or preferred sex toy as you enter them.
How it’s done: Lie on the edge of the table, countertop, or any sturdy surface that you can find. Make sure that the surface is within your pelvic level. Spread your partner’s legs apart and place them on your shoulders as you enter them.
You can also have them play with their clit using their hands or toy. For maximum comfort, place a pillow underneath your partner. (Sex Educator Dainis Graveris of Sexual Alpha)
9. Criss Cross Apple Sauce
Why it’s good: This might sound innocent, but it’s no child’s play! This position gives partners more control and turns up the intensity to new levels.
How it’s done: Have your partner sit on the bed, couch, surface, or ground with their legs crossed or semi-crossed. Spread your legs and cross them around your partner’s lower back as they enter inside of you. This position gives added grip control with legs and arms wrapped around your partner. This position automatically allows for clitoral stimulation with the pulses and rocking on top of your partner’s pelvic or stomach. (Sex therapist Jackie Golob)
10. Valedictorian
Why it’s good: You will take this lying down but it will make the hairs on the back of your neck stand up, and more importantly, your clitoris will thank you.
How it’s done: Lay on your back, spread your legs in a “V” position and have your partner enter you. Have your calves hit your partner’s upper arms. Ask your partner to press down onto you to hit the clit. Hang tight to your ankles if you are wanting a little more restraint, stretch, or to try something new! (Sex therapist Jackie Golob)
There you have it! Whether you’re facing difficulty stimulating the clitoris or are looking for ways to spice things up, these expert tips and positions for clitoral stimulation are a one-way ticket to Orgasmville. Go give these a try now and thank us later!
Experts cited in this piece:
Sex therapist Jackie Golob
Sex Educator Dainis Graveris of Sexual Alpha
Edwina Cato of BedBible
Dr. Ditza Katz of Women’s Therapy Center
Bestselling writer and sex expert Tracey Cox
Sexologist Deon Black
Tara Struyk, Co-Founder of Kinkly