In astrology, transits act as thermometers of the current celestial weather. They can show us what the general energy is like and what we’re in the mood to do during a specific period of time. Similarly, the phases of the Moon can act as catalysts and emotional triggers for us to embark on new relationships, breakups, and makeups. The Moon is the natural ruler of information, emotions, and intuition, and every lunar transit brings feelings to light that make us take action around our desires.
First, the bad news: New Moons can often mark the start of an overdue breakup. Our minds may start overanalyzing and replaying arguments over and over, which can force us to lash out. However, we can avoid breaking up if we take a step back from the neurotic mind-set and understand our feels—which, of course, is hard when everything feels so dramatically O-V-E-R (and doubly so if a planet like Mercury or Venus is also retrograde). Because New Moons symbolize new beginnings, a breakup can usher that in by making you embrace that #Single life.
But on the flip side, a whirlwind romance can start swiftly too! We can be inclined to jump in headfirst into a passionate affair of the heart without hesitation, and this lunar phase marks the beginning of a journey. Keep in mind, though, that during a New Moon, we can’t see the lunar glow on Earth. This can make us act a bit rash—which isn’t necessarily bad, per se, just something to be cautious about. If it brings you closer to a nice person you like, great! But just be wary of jumping into anything you feel unsure about, bb.
Emotions may be extreme and dramatic (oy!) because the Moon casts a dark shadow onto Earth, which can cause us (on a bad day) to revisit our most major relationship fears. But who isn’t afraid of the dark? Instead of having nightmares about ghosts of relationships past, use the lunar energy to create a dialogue about past traumas with your current boo. This will actually help your partnerships grow and evolve!
New Moons make us feel confident in addressing our desires with our partner, ending arguments and creating healthier boundaries between you both. It can also allow you to be comfortable in addressing your erotic needs and being adventurous in the bedroom. New Moons force us to express our sexual desires, allowing us to speak freely and explore our fantasies like BDSM or sensation play. Consensual sexual activities that involve the pleasure of feeling present within our bodies and minds can help us connect with our partner on a deeper level during New Moons.
If you’re single, New Moons are an ideal time to have (and be admired by) a crush. They may slide into your DMs or the hot barista you’ve been flirting with every morning may give you an extra shot of espresso in your latte. So swipe right and go on that exciting Tinder date—a new relationship may start sooner than you think!